Do you have a family tree? Who made it? Do you appreciate it or you don’t really care? Did you have to make one during primary school? How did that make you feel?
So many questions, I know, but this is kind of tricky, isn’t it? Weather you are a traditional family, foster family, adoption family, reconstituted family or any other kind of family, making a genealogies tree isn’t simple and can be a very delicate topic at times. While some people insist that genealogies are only meant to be genetic, most agree that the purpose of a family tree is to represent the family – whatever that family might be.
I remember as a child, my adopted maternal grand-father (what a mouthful, let’s call him Opa). So, my Opa , had one. I’ve been a history buff as long as I can remember and when I found out that he had a super-duper old family tree, that he kept up to date, I just couldn’t wait to see it and ask all kind of questions. Oh, how I wanted in on the the family scandals. But when he proudly showed me the old document with a great big tree on it, I remember frantically looking for my name, to only be disappointed by not seeing it. My mom was on it, so was my dad and my cousins, but I was not.
But that was many years ago and now having been found and welcomed into the arms of my birth family, one of the first questions I had, “What’s my heritage? Where are my ancestors from?” I am only now getting into the whole family tree thing again and pretty excited I must say. But where to start? How to do it? Should I make a double one? My family situation is so incredibly confusing that I wont only need a family tree to explain it, but a Power Point documentation and some pie charts, hey I’ll make the Power Point with a pie chart included. “Euh this one right here is my cousin from my adoptive father we are 0% related, however this cousin from my birth mother’s side is related to me for about , hmm, 25 % …I think”…Help!
My husband and I form a reconstituted family, his side of the family are pretty traditional people, I’m the weird one. I have my adoptive family side and my birth family side. I almost broke out in a sweat at my wedding trying to explain who was who. That’s my dad, oh, he’s my dad too.
Anyway, tell me about your family tree, give me some advice, I beg you ….help, please?
- How To Build A Family Tree (answers.com)
- The angry adoptee? (lostbutf0und.wordpress.com)
- Family Tree Maker (programmableweb.com)