Bad bad mommy…and daddy!

Yesterday, after a long day of work,  I came home not only to cook diner for my family but I had forgotten our youngest daughter of 9 , had a school project due for the next day. I’ve never been good at getting stuff done well ahead of time and this project wasn’t any different.

Her project was about Brussels. You know, the capital town of the European Union and of Belgium? You might be rolling your eyes at your screen now, but believe me, when I’m travelling and I say that I live in Belgium, I’ve had people tell me “Oh yeah, the capital of Brussels!”. I’m then the one rolling my eyes.

Anyway, that was off topic, back on the subject now. I came home, cooked diner and for the first time in my life, I baked a whole batch of Belgian waffles. Here they call them “Brusselse wafels”. They looked pretty good, but I wasn’t convinced about the taste. Oh well. You can see a bit missing on the bottom waffle….I’m the culprit.

While I was doing that, my husband was putting the Atomium together. We had a little argument about ; how much parental help is too much help with school projects? I mean, I was baking waffles and he’s making the Atomium and all the while Veruna is asking ” Can I help, please? Can I do something please?”  I hope we haven’t scared her for life now. Bad mama, bad papa! I’m promising myself that I will let her do her next project by a-l-l by herself, with maybe some help from me.

Once my husband had put the whole thing together, she did get the chance to help wrap the darn thing in alunium, alumion, aluminum….Arg, in foil. The next stage was hiding it from the cats. They destroy everything that catches their interest. This was the finished product :

For those of you who aren’t familiar with the Atomium, this is what it looks like in real life :

Atonium

Atonium (Photo credit: Med PhotoBlog)

So by the time my hubby finished the construction and I finished making the waffles (made more than was planned because everyone kept on eating them) it was almost 11 pm…Noy much of a relaxing evening. Thank Goodness it’s Friday folks!

Have a great weekend!

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Do pets go to heaven?

My beloved cat Snowball passed away yesterday in my arms after two days of pain after having had a C-section to deliver her two dead kittens. I didn’t know that I could weep like I did yesterday for a creature, but it broke my heart loosing her. There are no words to explain how I feel and I feel like nobody understands me…

I don’t know if animals go to heaven, but I do sure hope so and I prayed that she would.

Ecclesiastes 3:18-21““As for humans, God tests them so that they may see that they are like the animals.  Surely the fate of human beings is like that of the animals; the same fate awaits them both: As one dies, so dies the other. All have the same breath (literally “spirit“); humans have no advantage over animals. Everything is meaningless. All go to the same place; all come from dust, and to dust all return. Who knows if the human spirit rises upward and if the spirit of the animal goes down into the earth?”

Snowball…I’ll miss her pretty blue eyes looking up at me.

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Yes, we made into Glamour Magazine!

 

YES! Our amazing story has made it to one of America’s best selling magazines and I am particularly happy with the end result. It even brought a tear to my eye….ok, I can can be honest with you all, it made me weep. It was embarrassing.

So people, go get the magazine, get something warm and comforting to drink (vanilla latte is my preference) and enjoy.

Thank you to all of whom took an interest in our miracle and have made this story happen. Also a special thank you to my adoptive father who has always helped me in my search and has too welcomed them into his family. It must be hard but he did it and  with grace.

I just can’t believe how lucky we are. I have an amazing, loving ,sweet,  beautiful and talented sister whom I am sooooo proud of ! The future is looking bright. She might be in the spotlight, but behind her are our loving parents who have welcomed me, my children and my husband into their family as if we have always been together. A great mom who acted just like a mom would at our wedding. A father, who I feel like I related to the most and a great brother who my son A-D-O-R-E-S ! I kind of like him too. We even have matching tattoo’s now. We got them in Amsterdam. My wedding present from him. Sweet!

I only hope to be able to see each other more often. Having a sea between us ain’t helping! Can someone give me a job over there? Please ? ^^Ooops, I’m embarrassing myself again.

Love yah sis, mother, father and bro! Dad, I love you too of course!

Thank you God!


25 points of useless information about myself.

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1. I’m Canadian and proud of it. I am however living in Belgium for the moment.

2. I never finish anything. I always leave  the last cookie –  I have endless amounts of chip bags with crumbs in them – I’ve never emptied a glass and I even leave one piece of toilet paper on the roll….

3. I get hyper if you touch my toes.

4. I’m too lazy to pre-read my posts and so I end up making loads of typo’s and constantly going back and forth trying to correct them.

5.  I’ve been pooped on by an eagle.

6. I cried when Spock died in Star Treck 2. R.I.P. Spock!

7. I used to be crazy (read obsessed) of the New Kids on The Block. Aaah, Joey McIntyre…I even had a crush on a guy who worked at Wendy’s. That  was until my dad told him that I though he looked like Joey. (the shame)

8. My sister is an upcoming celebrity. I would like to tell you more, but I’m afraid of making myself look pathetic as in “Look at me, my sister is …” Oeps, almost did it.

10. I’ve been adopted but have been reunited with pretty much my entire birth family. So I now have 2 families!

11. I believe in miracles because I believe in God and have seen what He has done with my life. Really a miracle.

12. I was a teen mom and now my two kids are teens themselves. Thank goodness that they’re smarter than me and that I’m not a granny yet!

13. Just to make things clear : I DO love my teens (adore them) and haven’t once regretted having them. They have made me who I am today (with allot of help from God)

14. I don’t really understand what all the fuss is about Miss Pippa’s butt.

15. When I’m genuinely laughing, I snort. Yes, snort as in a little pig.

16. I used to date Bear Grylls.

17. I lied.

18. No matter how much I deny it, I have a flair for the dramatic. Ask my fiancé.

19. I hate confrontation.

20. I rather text, BBM, chat, skype,Whatsapp then have to talk on the phone and will almost always pass the phone to my fiancé. Unless your my mom, sister or good friend. (I felt like I had to add that)

21. I often speak without thinking and then spend the rest of the time wondering what the fudge was I thinking and cussing at myself. In my thoughts that is. I’m not actually speaking to myself, now that would be weird.

22. Kids used to pick on me in primary school, because 1. I was an Anglophone in a French Canadian School, 2. I was tall + skinny and 3. Because I was an Anglophone in a Canadian French School. It has distorted my way of thinking.

23. When I’m depressed I like to hide in my room with a tub of Ben & Jerry’s and a Barbara Cartland book. Hey, she’s a good writer.

24. My family situation has become so complicated that I could only explain it by using charts.

25. I wrote this post from work because I was bored.

Meet me under the Eiffel Tower. -A sisters reunion.

I met my sister under the Eiffel  Tower.

My sister found me in November 2009. But because she was living in the States and I am living in Europe, it has made it impossible for us to meet. This is pretty frustrating, looking for your birth family for 14 years then being found but not able to meet yet because of the ocean between us and the high fuel prices making ticket prices incredibly expensive. Whom should I thank for that? But we still fabricated a strong relationship by emailing, Skype and BBM as I do with my birth-parents. Unfortunately you can’t see each other’s facial expressions, or mannerisms. Most importantly, you can’t hold each other.

 

Well anyway, my sister’s husband, who has family in the UK, planned a trip for them to Europe around Christmas, to my parents dismay. First London, then Paris. Ahhh! Paris. I was secretly hoping that we could maybe finally meet each other then, but it seemed like they had too many plans, romantic ones, and I didn’t really want to intrude. So, I just left it at that and pretended that my holidays were fully booked as well.

But my “soon –to- be- other- half” though differently and secretly planed a two day trip to Paris with the kids (and myself of course) to go and meet them. Poor dear, he couldn’t  keep the secret for long. Once I have the feeling that something is happening behind my back, I turn into Sherlock Holmes and usually find out what’s going on. It freaks my son out.

This would all take place December 2010. But, like some of you might have heard, the airports across Europe were closing down due to weather and partly because they were running out of de-icener. Crazy! Europe really isn’t prepared for winter when it comes to snow and ice. So, Heathrow, the airport my sister was flying into was shut down for a few days as well because of old man Winter. What happened then ? L’s flight got cancelled and my dreams to finally hold the sister I so longed for went down the drain.

I prayed fervently that evening, even posting a Facebook status asking my friends to pray for a miracle as well. I though for a second, but why God? Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy?(sobbing dramatically)

But I quickly calmed myself down and choose not to make myself depressed or to feel self-pity. I know that God is in control and that even if I don’t understand some things that happen, I know He has a plan. If it’s not meant to be now, it will maybe be in the future then.

I woke up the next day to a couple of BBM messages and messages on Facebook. It was my sister.

“Where are you, I’m trying to reach you. I wanted to let you know that we were able to book another flight”

Thank YOU! I guess I just needed to realize that I have to trust God, no matter how unfair something may seem. It’s in spite of the trials, we always have God’s promise that the trials and tests that we go through are for our good (Romans 8:28, Hebrews 12:2, 2 Corinthians 4:17, James 1:2). We learn that it is through trust that our relationship with God strengthens and our love for Him grows.

So, three days after Christmas, my fiancé, children and myself, climbed into our Citroen C3 cookie tin box at six in the morning, making our way to Paris. By then, I think my hubby -to -be must have asked me ten times already if I was nervous. I said, no. I didn’t really feel nervous.

Three hours later we arrived at our hotel in Paris, parked the car and made our way to the Eiffel Tower, by subway. Unfortunately, the receptionist of our hotel gave us wrong instructions as to where to get off and we ended up across the river “La Seine” away from the Eiffel Tower. I yelled : noooooooooooooooooo! Five minutes to our meeting and we still have a river to cross. Typical!

Despite all of this, we were still able to be taken aback by all the beauty around us. We have been there before a couple of times, but it never grows old, it never looks dull. It was cold and foggy and but I really don’t think that there are many places that still  look so lovely on a grey day like this. Even the tip of the tower was hiding under a cloud of fog. It had something magical to it.

All that time my hubby-2-b was filming me and my sweet teenage daughter was taking pictures. I was surprised at the amount of photo’s taken when I was looking at them at home after getting back, she had been mainly taking pictures of horse statues and of pigeons apparently…many, many horses.

“Are you nervous?” Kim asked while filming me.

“NO, anxious, YES and worried that we won’t get there on time and annoyed at you for asking me if I’m nervous for the tenth billionth time.” I replied while rolling my eyes. I’m pretty good at looking annoyed. He got the picture and fully exploited it on film.

Well, anyway,continuing, we saw a bridge we needed to cross and started heading towards it. Then my daughter, who hasn’t let go of my arm since leaving the car except for maybe filming the pigeons and horse statues, asked me why I was walking slower instead of faster. I started to think and panic:

– “But what if she doesn’t like me?” “What if we don’t know what to say?”  “Do we hug or not”, “Darn, I should have not put on any make-up. Oh well, I won’t cry. “I guess I was just so scared at the thought of my fantasy bubble bursting and the fear of being rejected.

We arrived under the Eiffel Tower and we were all looking around us, desperately trying to find them among the herd of other tourists. I was squinting my eyes as if that would make them appear miraculously. I kept on turning and looking .

I was worried most of all that she wouldn’t like me or that she decided at the last moment that she wasn’t ready, or that they maybe got run over by some crazy French dude in a Renault. It could happen…have you been to the “Arc of Triumph”?

Luckily  for us, we ‘re living in an era where even dogs  have a smartphone and all that time we both kept in touch, monitoring each other’s step until I proudly sent:

-“We’re here!!!”

I could have sworn that half an hour passed before I heard from them again, but my son reassured me (while rolling his eyes at me, I’m so proud) that only 1 minute had passed. I then get an answer back from her:

”Where?”

Is she kidding?

-” Euh, sweetie, we are under the Eiffel Tower, between the other zillion tourists.” I answered.

While I was still frantically turning and squinting my eyes, my boo kept on bugging me to maybe move more to the side, next to a blue caravan or container with some questionable wet stains on the bottom sides. Not quite the movie like background I had imagined, so I pretended not to hear him.

I kept looking at my phone….then up….the around…then back at my phone, until I hear Kim say:

– “What are you doing? I’ve spotted her already you know.”

All of a sudden, all went silent, or so it seemed to me; I didn’t hear people talking anymore or notice the  pushy vendors trying to sell me a Eiffel Tower key chain, just silence….

This next bit will sound corny, and I apologize beforehand, but common, imagine you were me and your meeting your sibling for the first time!

So after hearing him saying that he had already spotted her, I looked up and it’s seemed like the crowd parted as if they were curtains on a stage.

And then, all of a sudden there she was, my sister. She was heading straight, not quite running, but walking very quickly. I leaped towards her and we just flew into each other’s arms and wept.  She was stunning and she was a part of me. We hugged and it felt like holding a long lost friend; warm and perfect. After a couple of minutes we let go of each other and it was the first time that our eyes have ever met. I was now starring into the two same pair of hazel eyes…the same eyes I have looked at for years in the mirror. I always wondered if there was someone out there with the same eyes. Is that person thinking of me?

She did. She thought of me, looked for me and found me. My sister.

We spent the next two days sharing, shopping, laughing, sightseeing, comparing our hands and freckles, and finding out things that we had in common. We have the same mannerisms, the same nose and same size of petite hands. It was just so incredible to find a part of me. A relative…besides the ones I have already gladly produced myself. She and I have the same mother, the same father plus the same brother. Basically, we have the same family. All of whom I still yet need to meet, but due to money issues can’t just yet. It’s just so sad.

But meeting my sister  has made me feel whole again and so incredibly happy. With her has come the first steps, the bridge if you will,  leading to my new found family.

I will be forever grateful to her for looking for me, finding me, accepting me, loving me and last, for helping me with filling up those ugly empty gaps. The gaps I had  in my family tree.

“Dear Lord, thank You for my family. I’m grateful for so many things, and one of those is for the family who loves me enough to want to meet me and want to be with me. Help me to trust You always. I might think I know what’s best for me, but I am not seeing what lies ahead the way You do. I want to submit to Your plans for me every day, in sunshine and shade.

In Jesus’ Name,  Amen.

Top 10 List of what this Mommy REALLY wants..

10. To be able to eat a whole tub of Ben ‘n Jerry’s alone. Crème fraiche? But of course!

9. To have my 16 year-old daughter answer a question without rolling her eyes in that “Why is this person my mother?”.

8. Five pounds of chocolate that won’t add twenty.

7. Not having any kid yell at the toilet door that “it’s an emergency” or “just” wants to ask a question the second I sit down with my favorite magazine.

6. A full time cleaning,cooking,grocery shopping and ironing person – period!

5. For one of my teenagers to announce “Hey, Mom! I got a full scholarship and a job all in the same day!

4. Having a pleasant unexpected visit from a friend- WHEN THE HOUSE IS CLEAN.

3. To have a family meal without a discussion about bodily secretions or having to hear the phrase “mom, make her/him stop looking at me”.

2. To be able to have enough warm water for a shower myself .

1. For my “babies” to never have to grow up.

Have a great day,

My Weirdest Pet Peeve

“PET PEEVE (or pet hate) is a minor annoyance that an individual identifies as particularly annoying to them, to a greater degree than others may find it.”

I can easily tell you what my weirdest character trait would be, having to have access to internet at all times so I can look stuff up on Google or Wikipedia. I have even googled the second World War on my cell phone to prove myself right.

I’m sharing this useless information with you because that brings me to my weirdest pet peeve. I didn’t know what a pet peeve was, so I looked it up on Wikipedia of course.

Now, what’s my weirdest pet peeve? Hmmmm….

Well, I have a few, definitely when it’s that time of the month again but what I really hate is when someone doesn’t clean the sink after having used it. Ok this sounds crazy, but I’m a neat freak and the rest of my family isn’t. Each and every time I clean the house (that’s 3 times a week) half an hour later someone probably spilled something, left remnants of toothpaste in the sink/on the mirror or left some worn, dirty socks in the couch.

Our sink in the kitchen is made out of stainless steel. Stainless steel , yeah right! W-H-A-T-E-V-E-R! If you don’t dry it up after having used it, you end up with these stains, calcium deposit stains. That drives me crazy, then I drive my family crazy by telling then every one to clean the sink after washing their hands, each time they use the sink.

It’s not only cleaning out the sink- each sink has it’s own wipe down cloth btw, but just keeping the house clean. My teen-age daughter makes coffee every morning, bless her, but she never cleans up after herself. So I’ll find coffee grind and stains all over my white kitchen cabinets.

Or when my son is filling the dishwasher, he never empties the cups and just puts them in the machine. So whatever was in those cups, end up again on my white kitchen cupboard doors. Aaaaarrrgggh!

This untidiness makes me so angry that I actually went around the house one time, when everyone was away and took pictures of everything!!! From stains on the floor as to a Yu-Gi-Yoh cards lying forgotten in the corner. After taking the pictures I made a PowerPoint, full of embarrassing pictures of their room and bathroom. I added some dramatic music and a couple of threats:- “Beware if you don’t start cleaning up after yourselves, I will post this to You Tube and Facebook and tag your names into it”.

I even went on a mummy strike once or twice, but being a neat freak, it didn’t last that long.

Threatening your kids with humiliating then on the internet is way more effective than anything else. Until they block you …

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Hello curious readers and thank you for visiting my blog!

My name is Miriam Christina and I’ve always wanted to share a bit of my life, for therapeutically reasons, for wanting to give some hope to those in similar situations or just for the selfish reason of putting myself out there !

This blog is all about life ! Life as an adoptee, life as a teenage mum, life as a struggling young adult, life far away from home, spiritual life, lonely life and now a somewhat content life. Oh yes and a very exciting , life changing moment : the being found life !

To some people, those who will be doing me the honor of taking some time out of their busy lives to read a bit of mine, well it will maybe seem a bit much, a bit unimaginable, but I’m promising you that all that I will be writing here, will be the truth and I thank you in advance, for taking some interest in what I have to say.

“The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.” ~ G.K. Chesterton

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