God and Palm Trees

If you are a Christian like me you will probably have experienced moments in your life that you feel far from God. I’ve been there and I know of many others whom have experienced it too.

Now, you can wonder why it is or JUST surf the internet for solutions as how to remedy this. You only need to type your sentiments into Google and you will be hit by thousands of pages relating to your feelings of abandonment from God. You see, your not the only one.

I’m no professional or theologist, so I’m not going to lecture you here on the reasons as of why  you might feel far from God. I don’t think that it is my place, neither do I know what’s going on in your life and your relationship with Him. All that I can recommend you to do is to first of all, turn to the word and keep on praying. Even if you don’t feel like it. Even if you think that God isn’t listening. Even if you are full of doubt, that’s when you need to keep on praying.

I was wanting to write this post so that I could share with you something that a friend had once told me. It was told to me when I was experiencing a moment of trial and wondering why I felt like God was ignoring me.

Psalm 92:12
The righteous shall flourish like a palm tree,
He shall grow like a cedar in Lebanon.

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In a hurricane the palm tree can bend all the way to the point where it looks like it’s about to break. But doesn’t break. That is how God made them. During the storm it’s rough, it’s hard. After the storm.. It does not break, actually scientists have proven that after a palm tree has survived through a storm, they actually become STRONGER than what they were before.
God compares the righteous to palm tree’s. Because God created palm tree’s in that special way He created us. When the devil comes and attacks us.. We can go to the breaking point but God won’t let him break us.

I hope this helps somehow.

What has helped you in the past when you were feeling alone?

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Our a-sexual cat?

Lead character : Our cat Koetje, meaning little cow in Dutch. The kids pick the name of our pets, not me.

Problem: Urinal blockages due to struvite crystals.

Solution : Penile amputation, auch.

 

After our cat Koetje had quite a few urinal blockages due to struvite crystals, and had many animal hospital sleepovers (costing us a small fortune), we decided, after the vet showed us some high tech program about how crystals form and obstruct the urinary canal, to opt for a penile amputation. At this point he was back in hospital, only two months after his last episode. This time he equally had a life threatening kidney infection due to the obstruction. It was time to take action.

If you are like me, you never heard of such a horrible thing. Penile Amputation… If you’re a guy, your probably shivering in horror. You’re thinking, poor lad, that it seems a bit…drastic. Right? It’s not like they amputate a humans dingeling if he has kidney stones that can’t pass. Or do they? Imagine…or don’t.

 

Koetje with his cone of shame

Well, our cat isn’t a human and we had tried everything before. Different kinds of foods, pastes, bladder rinses, meds and many many trips to the vet. We love our cats. All three of them and I believe that if you decide to have pets, you will do all that you can to give the best quality of life possible to your pet.

We prayed and talked about it and we looked up a lot of information on this operation before deciding that this was the best thing to do.

It’s now been a week and half ago. We will be traveling back to the vet this evening to see if he is allowed to get rid of the, how my b-dad likes to calls it, “the cone of shame”

My b-dad has also asked me if our cat Koetje looks at me with sad eyes asking : “why?”  Or he was wandering if I wasn’t worried about Koetje getting bullied by the other local cats.

I’m just glad that he is back at home and that he hopefully wont have to suffer anymore in the future. He is being pampered by everyone and he loves the attention. As you can see in the pic above, he doesn’t like being alone .

So,did any of your pets have the same operation? How are they doing after the op? Did your cat behave differently? Did other methods help your cat? I’d like to hear some tips and stories.

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My nominees for the Beautiful Blogger Award

Yaaaaay! I’ve been wonderfully nominated by Sue,  blogger of  the Wild Geese blog. I don’t know what it actually means, is there a prize attached? Will my picture be in the news paper? Maybe I won a cruise?

Oh well, I don’t think so, but thank you so very much Sue for liking my blog enough to want to nominate me. Maybe it’s something that just happens in the blogging world? I dunno  but the fact is, I am grateful . I appreciate anyone who reads my stuff and I extend a warm welcome to everyone and anyone.

Now I need to choose some nominees. I decided to choose from my personal bookmark list of inspirational adoptee bloggers whom I  love to follow plus a very special earthy/hobo mom blogger. You learn something each day, you expand your horizons, and you see out of the box. Thank you ladies for having such inspirational blogs !beautifulbloggeraward21

And my nominees are (drumroll…..) :

Emilie from Never Said Goodbye

Sarah  from Walk Slowly, Live Wildly

Rebecca from Love is not a pie

Jenn from Insert Bad Movie Title here

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I AM an Adoptee and I am NOT offended by the Avengers movie

Ok, I’m probably going to step on some toes here, but I am going to share with you, my personal feelings towards this topic. When it first came to my attention I was thinking, oh boy, what now. I didn’t really feel like getting into it and just ignored it at the start. However, I have installed a daily Google alert about adoption,  sending me an email with a list of adoption topics and wow, it is FULL of articles and posts about the Avengers movie, so I cannot ignore it anymore and I’m going to give you my two cents.

I am an adoptee and I am not offended. I love anything “Marvel” and do know quite a bit about all of these characters, I guess that makes me a bit of a nerd, oeps, sorry, didn’t want to offend all the nerds out there.

So this is the exchange in the film:

The Black Widow character says, “[Loki] killed 80 people in two days.” Then Thor, Loki’s brother, replies, “He’s adopted.”

“He’s adopted” isn’t saying that he is evil because of the adoption, but stating that he comes from a different lineage, so technically he isn’t part of the Odinson bloodline…

I can understand that some of you who have children through adoption find this heart breaking, but try to explain it like that and you need to understand the story behind it. If you haven’t seen the movie Thor yet, then maybe you should. I mean, there have been worse things said about adoptees on TV that children have seen. I’m thinking of “South Park” . I try to not let me kids watch it, but you don’t always know what they are watching over at their friends houses and when you aren’t at home, so you can’t always protect them from things like that.

And if adopted children are asking that if one bad adoptee means that they too are bad, their parents need to IMMEDIATELY start having a conversation about prejudice and discrimination of  individuals and groups. Are all Italians mobsters? All all women lousy parkers? That gingers don’t have a soul? I could go on. Plus, all of these topics are regularly seen on television or in movies.

I would also like to just share with you an article from The Washington Times. I’m sorry, but I’m thinking that Mrs or Miss Poe  could have left some things out. I respect and can agree on some things but not this part for example:

Want proof of just how bad that line is?

I like to do something I call “the substitution game,” whereby if I want to check whether or not a line is acceptable I simple swap out whatever word I have questions about with either the words “Jewish” or “African American.”  If the line sits well using both of these, the line passes the test.

So let’s try that here to find out if people would think the line was so funny if these words were used instead of  “adopted.”

So here we go:

The Black Widow character says, “[Loki] killed 80 people in two days.” Then Thor, Loki’s brother, replies, “He’s Jewish.”

Ugh…awkward, isn’t it? Doesn’t seem quite so funny.

OK, let’s try again:

The Black Widow character says, “[Loki] killed 80 people in two days.” Then Thor, Loki’s brother, replies, “He’s African American.”

Really? Really? You need to insert  Jewish or African-American to know if it’s an acceptable line? Like my husband said, “ Why don’t you just insert serial killer instead?”  –>sarcasm

I find that a bit racist to be honest, thinking of those two words … If I was Jewish or African-American, THEN I would be offended.

I am now going to end this post by saying that I am only speaking about my personal feelings on the matter and in NO WAY saying that other adoptees or parents shouldn’t be offended or can’t feel hurt, just that I am not. I am who God has created me to be and I’m not letting the fact that I am an adoptee define me, it’s just a small part of me and frankly, I can laugh about myself too at times.

Feel free to let me know how and why you feel like you do about the topic.

 

 

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Cannibalistic Hamster

My step-daughter’s mom is leaving town for a week and asked if we could take care of  V’s pet hamster.

I must say, I’m not really fond of the vermin. I L-O-V-E animals , absolutely adore them. But when my kids were younger, they had pet hamsters too. Djungarian hamsters to be more specific.I think they were about 5-6 of them. We didn’t know at the time, but we had a female and a male hamster, and well, I don’t need to tell you the specifics of what had happened, but we ended up with a bunch of hamsters.

Anyway, one day, I realized that we were missing one. I frantically looked around the house to see if it had escaped, checked the cage, checked under the furniture, in all of the rooms, but it was never found again. A few days later, the same thing happened. I asked the kids if they took the hamsters out to play and lost them (My friend had once lost his hamster while playing in the couch with it and that hamster too, was never found again. The hamster went into a hole of the coach and never came out, yuck) But the kids almost in tears and had said that they didn’t.

In the end hamsters kept on disappearing until only one was left, covered in blood. Only then did I know that we were the unfortunate owners of a cannibal hamster. Ta-Da-Daaa!

I wouldn’t go near that thing anymore, I was traumatised. So I gave it away telling the new owners to definitely never buy him a friend !I don’t think that I ever told them why. Then, I told the kids that he too  had disappeared, bad mama! But they know the truth now. Like the time I replaced one of my son’s fish when it died. “ Euh,Mom, why does my fish has more freckles on it’s back”…I can’t remember what I had said, but knowing me, it was probably a load of baloney. Oepsie!

Now having this hamster stay with us for the week is making me uneasy. It took me some time before I would go near it and now that I have, he looks kind of cute. Not in a “I’m going to hold you in my hands so you can eat me cute” just cute in a fluff ball kind of way. Yet, I can’t help it ,I’m still holding a grudge on the entire hamster species. While I’m writing this post, it’s looking at me with his black googly eyes…eating.

evil hamster

BTW, did you know that according to Uncyclopedia, these rodents are communists? Building an army? Click on the link if you don’t believe me.

Oh well, I guess it will only be for the week. If our cat Snowflake doesn’t make the hamster …“disappear” that is.  Moehahahaha!

snowflake and hamster

Bad bad mommy.

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Times vs Grown Ups simelarities?

When I first saw the pic on the new cover of Times magazine I though to myself three things :

  1. Ouch!
  2. She is so pretty ! Wow!
  3. Tihee! Hey, that scene from the movie of Grown Ups.

Ouch because I breastfed both of my kids and I even nursed one of them until he was 20-21 months old and believe you me, I wish I would have stopped once he started teething but he however though differently.

Yes, I think this woman is pretty, I don’t know why that came up in my mind. Probably because I know what breastesess can look like after nursing for some time. They don’t look like that. At least, I don’t think they would. Do they? Oh boy, nevermind mind.

And now Grown Ups. Common, many of you must have though of this movie right away, Right? How could you not. I think that it was one of the most funny moments in the movie. Ok, there must be others, but I can’t stop thinking of this one perticular scene:

Mom, momma, mommy, mama, mother, mmmmmmm?

Mother

A mother (or mum/mom) is a woman who has raised a child, given birth to a child, and/or supplied the ovum that united with a sperm which grew into a child. —Wikipedia

I hope you all had a great mother’s day yesterday.

On the topic of mom, I was wondering , how do you call yours? Or what do your kids call you? If you are like me, you have an adoptive mom and a natural mom. So how and why do you call them what you do?

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My mother’s day gift from my Step-Daughter. She calls me “Mim”

 

I don’t see my adoptive mother any more due to some very unhappy events when I was a teenager, making me have to leave home out of necessity. When I met my natural mother, I asked her if I could call her mom. I never say “birth mother” unless I’m using it on my blog, just to help you understand about who I’m talking about. When my sister and I talk about her, we say “La momma”.
It was uneasy at first, calling her mom, not sure if she really felt comfortable with me calling her that and I would avoid saying it at the beginning, even though I longed so much to call her that. But now, it seems natural.
With my biological dad, it’s so different, I’m still in good contact with my adoption dad. I call him dad or daddy but I’m finding it hard to find what I want to call my natural dad. We get along so well, I actually get on on the best with him. We are pretty close ,so I’m trying to find something comfortable for us. My kids call him Grandpa-T and he used to act irritated when he heard it…but I think he actually likes it. He’s just being a bit silly.

So, what do you call your mom and why?

And if you are looking for some inspiration, take a look at the following link of Mother’s Day Celebration website. You can see how people call their mothers in other countries.

How do you feel about mother’s day?

Mother's Day card

Mother’s Day card (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


Why I Hate Mothers Day

It celebrates the great lie about women: That those with children are more important than those without…

by author Anne Lamott

How do you feel about mother’s day? Does the upcoming mothers day raise your blood pressure a bit? Is it a day you look forward too or a day that you apprehend? Walking around you see all these advertisements for gift ideas to get your mom. Even your email can’t hide from all that publicity. “Treat your mom to a luxurious spa” —Hmm, spa…

Maybe you lost a child, maybe you grew up without a mom or perhaps your mama died and the though of her is still just to painful.

For me, mother’s day used to be right up there with the other days  you “must” celebrate, especially Christmas. I’m not going to get into Christmas just as yet, that might be a post for the next holidays but what I am focussing on now, is mother’s day now or how it should be called:  “Hail me for cooking your dinner and doing your laundry day” Now that’s a day I wouldn’t mind getting celebrated for.

However, mother’s day was one of those days that would remind me that I was all alone at some point in my life. Living in a foreign country, raising my teenagers on my own, without any love or support from my a-mother or any family for that matter. My a-dad lived far far away.

And how is it possible anyways for all the other moms out there to be happy and served on mother’s day? My mother-in-law lost her mom last year and the pain is still fresh because it would have been her birthday around this time. They were very close. I have friends who wish they could be mothers but it hasn’t happened or at least not yet. This is a sad day for my friends. How about the single mothers? Who’s cooking for their kids tonight? How about all the mothers who work in restaurants today, serving other mothers? Or in the shops? It’s a recipe for discontentment.

Now don’t me wrong, I don’t hate mother’s day,I used to but I’ve hated it less and less over the years. Not only because my situation has changed: a new loving husband and being found by my birth family, but because of the grace of God. He quieted my heart, He helped me see that I wasn’t alone and that He had great plans in store for me. We are never alone you see:

• We are loved with an everlasting love. (Jeremiah 31:3)

• We are the apple of His eye. (Proverbs 7:2)

• Our name is engraved in the palm of His hands. (Isaiah 49:16)

• We are carried through every storm. (Mark 4:35-41)

• We are wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)

• We are watched over day and night. (Psalm 121:1-8)

• We are forgiven. (1 John 1:9)

• We are rejoiced over with singing. (Zephaniah 3:17)

I should say though that I am not condemning anyone for celebrating this day but what I do think is that you don’t have to buy expensive gifts to show your love. There are many many other ways to do so. Be creative. I will be giving my birth momma a small gift for the first time, because I want her to know that I care about her, I love her and that mother’s day must have been as painful for her as it was for me and now we can celebrate!

So friends, this year, I won’t be moody if my kids forget me. Over the years they have blessed me with many, many, many sorts of artwork that will last me a lifetime. Heck, even though two of them are teens now, their art still garnishes the walls of our home, more beautiful than any Monet will do. I will remember that I’m not only a blessing to them, but they are a blessing to me too and that is remembered each and everyday in our home.

Try to turn the pain of mother’s day into joy. Enjoy this weekend and remember that you are loved!

Please don’t hesitate to share how you feel about mother’s day. I am not claiming to be a specialist on this matter. My views come from what I’ve learned, what I’ve experienced, and what I’ve perceived as an adult adoptee and so I really would like to hear your thoughts on the matter.

Have a great weekend!

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Cat hair in your coffee? Well now you can…in Vienna!

After three years of disagreements with the city of Vienna, the first cat café in Austria has opened its doors. The adversity was mainly due to the hygiene factor, but now the 47-year-old Japanese Takako Ishimitsuyet has gotten the green light for her lifetime dream.

In Vienna you can now go to ‘Cafe Neko’, “you’ll – never – guess – what – the – cat – does” in Japanese. Not very original because there is already a cat café named Neko, but you would have to travel to Tokyo for that one.

You will be welcomed by Sonja, Thomas Moritz, Luca and Momo, five cats that have come directly from a animal shelter. You will have to take the risk of maybe finding cat hair in your coffee but if you decide to go, you probably wouldn’t mind. Or maybe your used to it anyway. I know I find cat hair e-v-e-r-y-w-h-e-r-e-!

What do you think? Great idea or another business fail? I, personally would love to go visit that café. Gosh, that would give me a reason to visit Vienna! Vienna, cats and coffee. Me like big time! But heu, what about the dogs? Will they be allowed to come in for a cuppa you think?

The purrrrrrrfect cup of coffee

The adoptee family tree?

Do you have a family tree? Who made it? Do you appreciate it or you don’t really care? Did you have to make one during primary school? How did that make you feel?

So many questions, I know, but this is kind of tricky, isn’t it? Weather you are a traditional family, foster family, adoption family, reconstituted family or any other kind of family, making a genealogies tree isn’t simple and can be a very delicate topic at times. While some people insist that genealogies are only meant to be genetic, most agree that the purpose of a family tree is to represent the family – whatever that family might be.

A family Tree

A family Tree (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I remember as a child, my adopted maternal grand-father (what a mouthful, let’s call him Opa). So, my Opa , had one. I’ve been a history buff as long as I can remember and when I found out that he had a super-duper old family tree, that he kept up to date, I just couldn’t wait to see it and ask all kind of questions. Oh, how I wanted in on the the family scandals. But when he proudly showed me the old document with a great big tree on it, I remember frantically looking for my name, to only be disappointed by not seeing it. My mom was on it, so was my dad and my cousins, but I was not.

But that was many years ago and now having been found and welcomed into the arms of my birth family, one of the first questions I had,  “What’s my heritage? Where are my ancestors from?” I am only now getting into the whole family tree thing again and pretty excited I must say. But where to start? How to do it? Should I make a double one? My family situation is so incredibly confusing that I wont only need a family tree to explain it, but a Power Point documentation and some pie charts, hey I’ll make the Power Point with a pie chart included. “Euh this one right here is my cousin from my adoptive father we are 0% related, however this cousin from my birth mother’s side is related to me for about , hmm, 25 % …I think”…Help!

My husband and I form a reconstituted family, his side of the family are pretty traditional people, I’m the weird one. I have my adoptive family side and my birth family side. I almost broke out in a sweat at my wedding trying to explain who was who. That’s my dad, oh, he’s my dad too.

Anyway, tell me about your family tree, give me some advice, I beg you ….help, please?

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