I woke up in the middle of the night from a dream I was having. You know the kind where you actually regret waking up because it was so good.
I was dreaming that I was shopping with my sister, we shopped, we walked, we went for lunch in down town Toronto to her favourite vegan place. We were having some quality sister time.
Then I woke up just before I was going to have a bite out of my sandwich. Typical, food wakes me up.
I went to the bathroom and quickly jumped back into the warm bed next to my husband, but I couldn’t fall asleep All I could think about was my birth family.
We spent the summer with them, three weeks, but we had to divide our time between my a-dad (and his family) and my birth parents. This didn’t go as smoothly as I hoped for, but that is expected when two families have to share one. Plus, the fact that my husband and three children where sharing a home with my birth family of four, came with it’s own struggles. We all like our private space and it was a challenge sharing it I must say.
But two weeks ago, when I watched a film montage that my daughter had put together of our time in Ontario, all I could feel was sadness. Sadness because I missed them so much and I’m pretty sure that I’m not the only one. When my sister and b-father saw the movie, they too said that they missed us and that we had such a great time. It’s weird, you don’t remember the ‘not so good times’ when you are missing someone, you only remember the good.
Even though I find myself to be blessed because I found my birth family, when so many haven’t, I still feel a bit bitter at times because of the fact that we live so far away from each other. A big Atlantic pool between us. I often find myself checking plane ticket fares hoping to find a good deal, but there is never a good deal when your family consists of 5 people on one pay check.
I guess I’ll just keep on dreaming…a whatsapp’ing.
“The scariest thing about distance is that you don’t know whether they will miss you, or forget you. “
If you have found birth relatives, do you see them much? Do you live far apart? If so, how do you build up a relationship?