I AM an Adoptee and I am NOT offended by the Avengers movie

Ok, I’m probably going to step on some toes here, but I am going to share with you, my personal feelings towards this topic. When it first came to my attention I was thinking, oh boy, what now. I didn’t really feel like getting into it and just ignored it at the start. However, I have installed a daily Google alert about adoption,  sending me an email with a list of adoption topics and wow, it is FULL of articles and posts about the Avengers movie, so I cannot ignore it anymore and I’m going to give you my two cents.

I am an adoptee and I am not offended. I love anything “Marvel” and do know quite a bit about all of these characters, I guess that makes me a bit of a nerd, oeps, sorry, didn’t want to offend all the nerds out there.

So this is the exchange in the film:

The Black Widow character says, “[Loki] killed 80 people in two days.” Then Thor, Loki’s brother, replies, “He’s adopted.”

“He’s adopted” isn’t saying that he is evil because of the adoption, but stating that he comes from a different lineage, so technically he isn’t part of the Odinson bloodline…

I can understand that some of you who have children through adoption find this heart breaking, but try to explain it like that and you need to understand the story behind it. If you haven’t seen the movie Thor yet, then maybe you should. I mean, there have been worse things said about adoptees on TV that children have seen. I’m thinking of “South Park” . I try to not let me kids watch it, but you don’t always know what they are watching over at their friends houses and when you aren’t at home, so you can’t always protect them from things like that.

And if adopted children are asking that if one bad adoptee means that they too are bad, their parents need to IMMEDIATELY start having a conversation about prejudice and discrimination of  individuals and groups. Are all Italians mobsters? All all women lousy parkers? That gingers don’t have a soul? I could go on. Plus, all of these topics are regularly seen on television or in movies.

I would also like to just share with you an article from The Washington Times. I’m sorry, but I’m thinking that Mrs or Miss Poe  could have left some things out. I respect and can agree on some things but not this part for example:

Want proof of just how bad that line is?

I like to do something I call “the substitution game,” whereby if I want to check whether or not a line is acceptable I simple swap out whatever word I have questions about with either the words “Jewish” or “African American.”  If the line sits well using both of these, the line passes the test.

So let’s try that here to find out if people would think the line was so funny if these words were used instead of  “adopted.”

So here we go:

The Black Widow character says, “[Loki] killed 80 people in two days.” Then Thor, Loki’s brother, replies, “He’s Jewish.”

Ugh…awkward, isn’t it? Doesn’t seem quite so funny.

OK, let’s try again:

The Black Widow character says, “[Loki] killed 80 people in two days.” Then Thor, Loki’s brother, replies, “He’s African American.”

Really? Really? You need to insert  Jewish or African-American to know if it’s an acceptable line? Like my husband said, “ Why don’t you just insert serial killer instead?”  –>sarcasm

I find that a bit racist to be honest, thinking of those two words … If I was Jewish or African-American, THEN I would be offended.

I am now going to end this post by saying that I am only speaking about my personal feelings on the matter and in NO WAY saying that other adoptees or parents shouldn’t be offended or can’t feel hurt, just that I am not. I am who God has created me to be and I’m not letting the fact that I am an adoptee define me, it’s just a small part of me and frankly, I can laugh about myself too at times.

Feel free to let me know how and why you feel like you do about the topic.




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9 thoughts on “I AM an Adoptee and I am NOT offended by the Avengers movie

  1. I think people who are offended are misreading the line.

    The ‘he’s adopted’ is not trying to explain why Loki is evil, as it would if you replace it with ‘African American’ or whatever.

    Instead, it is just Thor trying to distance himself from Loki by disclaiming any blood tie. I’ve done that a time or two with my siblings.

  2. Victor says:

    It’s the internet. People will complain about anything, at any time, so long as it has even the slightest bit of relevance to their lives. Generations of whiners that stretch anything they possibly can so they have a cause to post about on Facebook and feel relevant in a world, of which, they refuse to admit to only being a tiny part.

    It might also be good to mention, for context, that Thor was arguing with the other Avengers because they wanted to handle Loki. To which Thor exclaims “He’s my brother!” Implying that it’s his right and responsibility to confront, try to reason with, and ultimately defeat Loki, if need be. Followed by the exchange ending with “He’s adopted.” as Thor tries to downplay his familial ties, that he was so adamant about seconds earlier, after learning of his brother’s atrocities. I thought it was a hilarious moment and he certainly was NOT implying that Loki was a murder because he was adopted (for lack of a better term, given his origins).

    Great post, btw. Found it via Reddit. Which means you may have lots of interesting feedback or lots of trolls incoming.

  3. Hey there!

    Thanks so much for reading my post on adoption, homeschooling and God’s mercies. I like what you’ve said here about the Avengers. People have asked me if we were offended by that statement and I have to say, “No.” And really, it boils down to not being so easily offended in general and teaching my children the same. I don’t want them growing up so sensitive to others’ remarks that they can’t enjoy life. If I were offended by every overgeneralization (word?) made about homeschoolers, homeschooling mothers, Christians (now there’s a big one), stay-at-home mothers, etc. etc… I’d have no room for living! I can’t speak as an adoptee, only as an adoptive parent and I try to look at things from my children’s point of view. But, mostly, I just try to show them the love of a Father who created them and adores them and has a full life waiting for them.

    Thanks again for stopping by my blog : )

    • Makers Daughter says:

      That’s how we should bring up our kids! Exactly.
      I really like reading your blog, some good tips there. I’ll be following you!

  4. I’m an adoptee and proud of it. One of my children is an adoptee and she is proud of it too. Superman was adopted. So if it’s good enough for a Super Hero it’s good enough for me. ;-D!

    Thank you for reading my blog “A Grateful Man”.


  5. Gingers don’t have souls….oh wait, yes we do! I haven’t seen the movie but from what I’m reading, as an adoptee, I don’t find it offensive. People have said far worse to me. I remember when I was a kid, having an argument with another girl at school. She said “It’s no wonder your real parents gave you away.” Now that was mean, because it was personal.

    • Makers Daughter says:

      Kids can be mean. I grew up as an anglophone in the French part of Montreal… Primary school was not fun!

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